The Best Tichel Ever!

Its pretty ironic that Jessie and I met at a wedding. You see, awhile ago when I first started wearing tichels, I had my little guidelines. I used to say " I love to wear tichels, but  for special occasions I wear a beautiful wig." And that's what I did. But I started to notice that every time I would see that one woman- whoever it was, wearing her tichel at wedding, I"d be  drawn to her. A tichel can do that. It can strip away so much excess that the person's soul shines with transparency. After a few years of holding on to the last bits of my old ideas about beauty I gave in. I started wearing my tichels proudly for every occasion. So that's where I met Jessi; at my nieces wedding with a velvet tichel on my head. She was engaged at the time and she said to me  "I want to wear those!" And that's how our friendship began! https://youtu.be/MFZgkOx-EBw     Read more...

Tying The Perfect Tichel Part 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ICC1pQzrM0E       Hey, I always thought my name was Rivka Malka. But a while back I caught on that to a whole bunch of people, I'm simply "The Tichel Lady." I've been covering my head with tichels (headscarves) for about 15 years now and truthfully I'm just as crazy about them as I always was. This is a great hint for my birthday present - ahem! Being a proud Jewish woman I feel joyful, strong, happy and grateful. The vibrant colors I love to wear are a celebration of a Torah life. Knowing what G-d wants from me and basking in His love are an incredible gift! There are 9 videos in this series so stay tuned for more as they're released.     Read more...

The Third Alternative

The  Third Alternative is an alternate universe that is waiting for us to visit her. It's a place of arriving, a place of surrendering control and being open, not only to possibilities, but to the possibility that there are so many possibilities you haven't even begun to fathom. They say, "You teach what you need to learn." The first half of this year I was learning about boundaries. I had made so many mistakes over the years that it took a giant wake up call for me to see how  offtrack I was. (You can see the video here.) I found that as soon as I was ready to learn the chances to practice the lesson were everywhere. I learned how to say no from a place of clarity. there are healthy limits that are needed to sustain a good spiritual and physical health. It's actually been pretty humbling. Now that I'm more honest about what I can and can't do, I realize that there's a lot that I can't do, without paying the price. So that was "Boundaries 101." And now, onto the next class, "Confrontation 101." If you watch the video you'll see notice that it's actually the opposite of classic confrontation where you blast the other party with your feelings.  A better name for this life lesson is "Harmony 101." and I am so grateful that I am learning it, day by day. You can see the book on Amazon here. I got mine from the library:) Read more...