Monday, December 7, 2015

A Poisonous Tattoo

 

Hey Everyone, this post is long overdue. It's about a freaky incident that happened a few months back. The first month or two we were frantically trying to deal with it. By the time I was ready to post, Neshama got burned and the feedback from that post was overwhelming. I didn't want this vital info to get lost in the hustle so I waited a bit.

Headwwrapping Expo

Here goes-As you know a few months back Wrapunzel went to the Headwrapping Expo in Detroit (click here for pictures).  It was incredible and eye opening.

A woman  had a henna painting booth next to us. We thought she was as lovely as could be and we thought it was henna.

At the end of the show, Hadassa, my daughter decided to get a henna tattoo. We figured it would be off in a few weeks and it was beautiful art, why not enjoy?Hadassa's Henna Tattoo

The next day she went to school hoping to share this cool thing but the girls did not like it. "Ew! It looks like a bug!,"

She was pretty disappointed, but in retrospect, their reaction is part of what saved her. After school she washed it off. It was hard though. She had to scrub mightily and no matter how hard she tried black stains remained. Eventually they turned red.

Hadassa's Henna Tattoo Henna

In the meantime, I had posted the picture of Hadassa's Henna on facebook along with the other Expo photos and I received a message in response from a message from a woman named Tamar.

Rivka Malka! I really debated messaging this to you, because it sounds slightly insane, but in the end I wanted to give you the heads up. I don't know if you are aware, but I'm a professional temporary body artist, and I've worked with face paint and henna for the last ten years. In the expo you have a picture labelled "Hadassa gets some henna". Unfortunately, the product being applied to your daughter is NOT henna. Real henna is a thick brown paste that takes 4-8 hours to leave a stain. Your daughter had something called PPD or Para-phenylenediamine.......

I didn't know what to make of it. I mentioned it to my daughter the next day and she said

"Yeah, my hand has been itching like crazy and I've been getting these blisters. They're tiny bumps but there keep on being more of them...

We looked on Google to find out more and we were shocked!!! This is a real thing! And this is illegal (no that the Expo organizers knew about this - I am not placing the blame on them.)

Not just that but this woman is wildly popular on Instagram and had showed us her page. Hundreds of hands with PPD tattoos'. Of course we contacted her. Of course she said its not PPD, she said it's Khadib (read below about Khadib) but in the meantime my daughter's hand was getting worse and her anxiety was through the roof. She was sure her hand would be scarred forever.

Thankfully, because she washed it off and because Tamar told us that it was dangerous we treated it aggressively with fresh aloe three times a day and about a month and half later the burn faded.fresh aloe

I'm so grateful to Tamar and to the time that she gave me on the phone helping us through this so we could help Hadassa. Tamar wrote the below article specifically for you. she was horrified at what happened and from the goodness of her heart put together this information so that no one else will get a chemical burn.

                                                                                                                                  

It’s Tamar, coming at you from Chicago!  Tamar

Most of you don’t know me, but I’m a professional face painter, and I’m also a henna artist.

I’m here today to talk to you really briefly about henna.  I’ve been in the temporary body art industry for the last ten years.  I’ve attended numerous face painting and henna conventions, and the contents of this post draw heavily on classes, seminars, lectures, and podcasts from world renown giants in the henna industry including: Kim Brennan, Noam Sienna, Jen Schafer, Kendra Williams, and Deborah Brommer.  Whenever possible, I’ve included a link or reference for more information.

Tamar face painting

OK, so WHAT is in henna?

Henna is another name for the Lawsonia Inermis plant which is grown in arid areas of countries like Pakistan and India (Chaudhary et al, 2010).   Henna is also the term used for the action: "I'm getting a henna" or an event where henna is applied “Like, my cousin’s henna is tonight.”  The leaves of the henna plant are dried and ground into a powder – that brownish green stuff that’s in the back left in the picture.

A drop of Henna

But the henna powder that you see here won’t actually dye your skin.  In order to stain your skin, the powder has to be mixed into a paste.  This process typically takes 12-36 hours, and there is no “rushing  it”.   Recipes to make the paste vary: mine includes henna powder, lemon juice, sugar, and a variety of my favorite henna essential oils.  The essential oils are full of monoterpenes, which help release the dye and create a better color.  Depending on my mood I like to use a blend of cajeput, lavender, niaouli, or tea tree, with some geranium, frankincense, or cardamom added in.

Once the paste is made, it is placed into cones or bottles.  In the picture above my henna cone is on the right.  The henna can now be applied to the skin in beautiful patterns to create a piece of body art (see the picture below).  Henna art is common on hands and feet, but many of you have likely seen the growing trend of creating intricate henna crowns for chemo patients.

Henna Art

The henna paste needs to be left on the skin for 4-8 hours in order to properly stain, and then you need to follow some important aftercare instructions, like avoiding water for the next 24 hours.

What do I mean by properly stain?  Henna is a strong dye – it’ll start to stain the skin orange within a few minutes.  In the picture below, I wiped off the henna that I had on my hand after 5 minutes.

henna

See that orange stain?  Yep, that’s after 5 minutes.  But it didn’t last long; that stain was gone within two days. In order to create a stain that lasts for longer then a few days, the lawsone molecule needs to penetrate the layers of the skin, and doing so takes us back to my earlier comment about leaving the paste on the skin for 4-8 hours.

After the paste is scraped off, the area where the henna paste sat will be bright, pumpkin orange.  Over the next 72 hours the stain will then oxidize and turn dark brown (a similar reaction to the black gunk that forms on your candlesticks and requires elbow grease and silver polish to remove, but I digress).  The dark brown design will then last anywhere from 4 days to 8 weeks depending on the person, how well it's taken care of, and the part of the body where the paste was applied.  In areas where you have a thicker layer of skin cells (ex: the palms of the hands), the stain will be stronger than areas where your skin is thinner (ex: foreheads).

Conned henna paste that is leftover after you apply henna needs to be stored in the freezer.  Once in the freezer, henna paste will continue to stain the skin if reapplied even a full year later!  However, henna paste has a very short shelf life at room temperature.  While the henna won’t immediately grow mold and bacteria if left out for one day, its staining capabilities will demise.  Even in the refrigerator, henna paste loses its potency after a few days.

                                                                                                                   

Is henna safe? Real henna is safe for almost everyone.   The exception to this is if you have a condition called G6PD (you’d know if you had it!), or if you are allergic to fava beans and aspirin.  Infants and newborns should also avoid henna.

What do I mean by real henna? Well, in most places worldwide there is no licensing, insurance or even a criminal background check of street and festival artists.  So when it comes to the application of henna, it’s up to you to be a savvy consumer.  Unfortunately, there are people who are slinging “henna” at salons, festivals and street corners who aren’t really using lawsonia inermis.  They may tell you that it’s “henna”, but the artist is either confused, uneducated, or being deliberately misleading.   Because henna paste takes time to create, time to leave a stain, and it has a short shelf life, a robust industry has developed overseas around commercially created “henna” products that can be purchased from a grocery shelf and leave a stain in 15 minutes.   These products claim to be henna, but these commercially imported cones often contains little or no lawsonia Inermis whatsoever.

The most dangerous of the pseudo-henna that is currently available for the unsuspecting consumer is black henna.  Black Henna, also known as Paraphenylenediamine, p-Phenylenediamine, or PPD is a black chemical dye that is an active ingredient in dark chemical hair dyes.  Hair dye boxes are labeled with warning that the dye should not come into contact with skin, and that it is intended only for use on hair, and needs to be washed off within a short time frame.  Well, PPD is sometimes added in small amounts to henna paste or used in place of henna paste to make designs that are darker faster.  While hair dye can contain 6 PPD!

PPD is illegal for use on skin in many countries, and for a good reason: PPD can cause blisters, scars, and internal organ damage when it comes in contact with skin cells!  PPD is a sensitizing chemical, meaning that every exposure carries a greater risk of causing a reaction, even if there was none in previous exposures.  To make matters even worse (because you weren’t already thinking that this stuff was toxic) PPD can have cross reactivity to permanent hair dyes, rubber chemicals, inks, clothing dyes, sunscreen and some diabetic and blood pressure medications (sulfonamides and hydrochlorothiazides) (Jacob & Brod, 2011). Once a reaction has happened, subsequent exposures can be life threatening.

Some traditional henna applying cultures use black henna because the practitioners are under the fraudulent belief that PPD is safe and natural (more on this later!).  Compounding the problem is the fact that PPD is often used on beaches, amusement parks, malls or vacation areas where a dark, quick product is desired, and vendors are transient (which means by the time you’ve had a reaction, the artist can be long gone!)

In the event that you do receive a black “henna” tattoo and it starts to itch or blister, you need to see a doctor ASAP.  An itchy black “henna” tattoo is really a chemical burn, and depending on the severity of the reaction, you may need prescription medication.  There are loads of truly gross photos of PPD burns – the following 2 photos are less gruesome.

scar

burn

One final word of caution as this post heads off to press.  Sometimes, black henna artists will tell you that they know that black henna is bad, but they are using natural “Khidab” henna ink.  Well, they’ve got it somewhat accurate...but it’s still not a good idea to got khidab body art.  Khidab is a gall-ink, charcoal, and metal oxide compound, and it does have a history of body art use.  However, there are a few things to keep in mind.  Number one, Khidab is NOT henna.  There is no lawsonia inermis in it, and so therefore, by definition, it isn’t henna.  Number two, the metal oxides can give some people a nasty skin reaction, and you won’t know if you are included in that population until after you are left with a miserable rash for a week or two (not fun!).  Number three; most of the khidab available today is simply a euphemism for varying amounts of PPD.   Number four, “traditional” and “all-natural” are feel good words that make you want to believe that something is safe.  But natural does not always mean safe.  Arsenic is “all natural” – but I wouldn’t want to ingest it!  As for traditional…well, for years it was traditional for hat makers to use mercury in their hats, and in Elizabethan England women used arsenic as white face powder…it was traditional! But it was also incredibly deadly.  And as my parting topic on black henna, the rule of “feel good” words and marketing ploys can be extended to a lot of situations in life; it is your job to be a savvy client!

But, as I mentioned before, black henna isn’t the only pseudo-henna on grocery shelves and at festivals.  I mentioned before that there are red and brown colored commercially imported cones that don’t require refrigeration and promise to leave a stain in as little as fifteen minutes on the skin. These cones often claim to be “henna” or even “natural henna”, but natural henna can NEVER accomplish those claims!  So what is in the commercially imported cones?  Well, unfortunately they are created in countries where labeling laws are incredibly suspect, and so there is no way to know for certain what is truly in that product. Do you remember my earlier comment on monoterpenes?  Essential oils like lavender and tea tree have high levels of monoterpenes and are great henna paste additions.  Unfortunately, gasoline, kerosene, camphor, and turpentine also have high levels of monoterpenes, and they have been known to be added to “henna paste” in order to up the ante on the stain power.  Just in case you weren’t scared enough, coffee, black walnut powder, and black kattam powder is sometimes also added in the hopes of boosting a henna stain, but these items range from causing allergic reactions to major skin irritation.

Ok Tamar, now you are scaring me! I just want to be able to get a henna! But how can I know if I have the “natural” stuff, or the faux henna?

The good news is that it’s incredibly easy to spot the fake “henna” from the real stuff!  Let’s use this photo as an example.  Is it real, or is the artist using fake henna?

Samera

If you said that this wasn’t henna, you were right!  How can you tell?

  1. It’s black! Automatically that means that this is NOT unadulterated lawsonia inermis.

  2. See how that “henna” is being painted on from that mixture in a cup?  Henna is a thick paste that gets squeezed out of cones or bottles.  In comparison, ppd based mixtures are often more liquid-y, and they need to be mixed in tiny shot-glass amounts.

Here’s an easy checklist to keep in mind:

  1. Look at the henna.  A slogan to remember is, “If it’s black – it’s whack!” If you see black paste, you know it’s not henna and you should RUN away!  If it’s brown or brownish-olive, go and have a chat with the artist, and take a closer look at that cone.  If you see a brand name and logo stamped onto the cone that means you are dealing with an artist that has commercial paste.  If you see a clear or patterned cone, that’s a good sign!  Natural henna paste does not come in cones with corporate labels.  But that still doesn’t mean that the paste is safe….proceed to step two and -

  2. Ask the artist what’s in the henna paste.  If the artist says “I bought it”, that can be another red flag for commercially made, preservative-and-chemical-laden paste.  If the artist claims that there is “mehndi oil”, or “henna stone”, walk away! Mehndi oil can be code for anything from eucalyptus to gasoline! Henna stone, or black rocks are usually code names for ppd.  If the artist doesn’t know what’s in the paste that should also be incredibly suspicious and a sign that you should pass on getting a henna from that artist.  If everything sounds kosher, you should -

  3. Ask how long the henna should remain on your skin.  If the answer is 15 minutes then the product being used isn’t henna!  Walk away! If the answer is 4 hours -

  4. Do a quick "sniff test" of the henna. Natural henna smells like essential oils.  Fake henna can smell like ammonia, hair dye, gasoline, or kerosene.  If it doesn’t smell “yummy” and “flower-y”, walk away!  If it smells ok -

  5. Ask the henna artist if he/she has liability insurance.  The general rule for body art (and this applies to face painting too!) is if the artist says “no”, it’s a bad idea for you or your child to sit down in that chair!

  6. And lastly, look at the henna artist’s hands.  Someone that has been doing henna designs on others all morning should have blotchy hands with varying shades of orange and brown.  If the artist has black, red, or purple splotches, they aren’t using a pure lawsone product.

If you have any more questions, feel free to contact me! I can be reached through my website: www.tamarielpaints.com or email: Tamarielpaints AT yahoo DOT com.

I’m happy to chat more about henna safety, how henna works, and I am on friendly terms with henna artists all over the world!  If you are interested in getting some henna, but don’t know who in your neighborhood uses quality paste, I can help you out!

                                                                                                                           

 

References:

Cartwright-Jones, Catherine (2006). DEVELOPING GUIDELINES ON HENNA:  A GEOGRAPHICAL APPROACH. http://www.hennapage.com/henna/encyclopedia/mastersessay/index.html

Chaudhary, G, Goyal, S. & Priyanka P.  (2010) Lawsonia inermis Linnaeus: A Phytopharmacological Review. International Journal of Pharmaceutical Sciences and Drug Research; 2(2): 91-98 http://www.ijpsdr.com/pdf/vol2-issue2/2.pdf

http://www.hennapage.com/henna/ppd/whatisppd.html

Henna Caravan - http://www.hennacaravan.com/facts.html

Jacob, S & Brod, B. (2011). Paraphenylenediamine in Black Henna Tattoos.  The Journal of Clinical and Aesthethic Dermatology.  4(12): 46–47. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3244359/

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Sunday, December 6, 2015

I Need To Ask for Help

When Neshama, our eight year old was in first grade she couldn't read.Teachers met with her privately and she got as much extra help as we could offer her. She still couldn't read. The year came and went and soon it was time for second grade. But Neshama couldn't go. It was so difficult telling her that she would be held back. An unusually mature child, she understood right away. The entire year whenever anyone would ask her "What grade are you in ?" She would say "First, but I'm supposed to be in second." At that point she had extra help in school but it wasn't until midyear  that she was diagnosed with Dyslexia. Dyslexia is a funny thing. I often think it's the condition reserved for creative brilliants of the world. You see these kids, geniuses; intuitive, smart, perceptive, mature - yet when to reading it just doesn't go. IMG_8730 First grade (the second time) was tough. Second grade was tougher. By the middle of the year we were desperate. We had to find a way to help her to read. She had one on one reading teachers in school and a volunteer tutor (thank you Barbra Wallenstein!) from the Dyslexia Tutoring Program once a week. She had a specialist from Kennedy Krieger work with her (thank you Jen!) It was completely uphill. Although she began picking up skills, the demands of second grade kept increasing as well. Anytime she was not with a one on one tutor, the work in front of her looked like a foreign language. She would ask for help and the teachers, although they were as accommodating as they could be were busy. They would say, "Try and figure it out yourself and then I'll come to you. But she just couldn't read Chinese! By midyear she was depressed. She was angry. She would leave the class to go to the bathroom and roam the halls until she was caught. At home she lost her sparkle. There would be flashes of sun a midst the darkness but when I sat down to talk with her she would vent her anger at me. "I wish you weren't my mother!" Which I understood as "I wish I didn't have to struggle so much!" Every night she would cry herself to sleep.  I don't know if you've met Neshama but she has a rare and special glow about her. She says these things like "What a beautiful day, I'm so grateful!" And "Aren't we lucky we have this gift of fresh air?!" But those comments were fading quickly. In their place came anger, frustration and negativity. she would often say "I can't live like this anymore." Or " You don't know what it's like to be me. It's horrible!" Around that time the principal called us in for a meeting. She recommended a few things. Among those was that Neshama see a therapist and also that we apply to Jemicy for the coming school year.She explained that Jemicy is tailor made for kids with Dyslexia and that she had seen incredible success with the kids she'd sent there. Many of them were even able to come back and be integrated into a mainstream school after a couple of years.   .                                                                                                        IMG_0069 We got to work. The first thing we needed was a physiological and educational evaluation. No problem, we thought.  Except it turned out that the testers that they recommended for the tests that they required  costed $4,000. All of the sudden it got complicated.We didn't know what to do. At that time we just couldn't afford that testing. It was too much for our large family to manage.stuck After many inquires we found out about certain clinics that would take insurance. We called them to find out if they administered the tests that met Jemicy's requirements. No answer. I won't put you through the whole story but it was a story. Months of paperwork, back and forth, offices closed for snow days and more trying to get her evaluations done. Then it was time to get the results. All this needed to be done before we could even have a meeting with Jemicy. (Thank you to the fantastic IEP  team of Baltimore City who did everything they could to help us!) Waiting waiting... In the meantime, Neshama was failing. The will to try was snuffed out. In its place was a little girl who felt terribly misunderstood in the world. Her behavior declined and the principal wisely suggested that she only come to school for half a day. That way she reasoned, she'll still feel like a part of things, but making her stay seven hours when she wasn't getting the material was too much for her. She was moody, she was defiant. She was sad. Sad Girl We hoped taking her out  of school would help - but unfortunately it wasn't enough I looked into getting Dyslexia training but I understood that my skills were too little, too late. I had to deal with my reality: I work, I have other kids to care for and I have another child with high needs who takes up all of my non working time. In the meantime, everything got more intense. She felt like such a failure. she spoke about not wanting to exist anymore. By the end of the year the therapist strongly suggested we see a psychiatrist. Neshama spoke about self harm. It's a horrible, powerless feeling watching your child suffer. Every parent knows it.  I kept saying "G-d, I know You'll help her because she's Your daughter too. "I just kept praying. I just kept praying. Finally, in May we got the test results back and immediately sent them over. We went to visit the school and we were elated with what we saw. The place is brimming with positivity and compassion. There's an office dog, an actual dog for kids to spend time with if they get too overwhelmed. Science class takes place outside near the stream. And inside the classroom there is a hands on approach to teaching that breaks words down in a way that kids can understand. Kids who had come in miserable were walking out succeses'. We couldn't wait to tell Neshama. We knew it was expensive but we were hoping for a scholarship or a miracle. We just knew this was the place for her. They understood how to help her. One month later we get a phone call."We got your paperwork but the school is full. We'd love to take her but there just is no room. Registration actually closed months ago." Panic, sadness, more praying. Neshama and Mommy   The summer came and slowly Neshama decompressed. Her old smile returned and in her childish way she trusted that we would find her a school. She was sure it would be Jemicy. Every night she spoke about it. We never told her it couldn't be, we just said," It looks like they have no room Neshama, please pray very hard." Her old school  had us sign forms stating that they couldn't serve her needs anymore and she was officially discharged. We had no clue what to do.     Until last week.                                                                                                                                           Neshama in Lake Last week we got a phone call from Jemicy. "A space opened up in the third grade and we would love to have Neshama." The dream of all dreams!!!!! Mazel tov!!! I am overwhelmed even as I write this for the great kindness G-d has done for us. This is literally a lifeline. We had no other place to go. It's a dream come true. At the last moment it all worked out. Now we have until August 14th to pay for it. We need help. By Thursday, August 14th we have to pay $17,000. a bit more than half the total tuition. All this happened so suddenly and now we are praying for a miracle. We don't want her to lose this chance. We are begging and pleading with the Universe that this works out. We're not fancy people that usually deal with these sums of money and yet we need to do it.  We know that there are amazing people out there. We have no idea what to expect, we just know we need help. I would never in a million years think that I would be making a fundraiser for myself - but I am. That's how much we love Neshama. Please can you help us? I mean it when I say her life depends on this. She's the one who taught us about hope and we remembered her words. "There are always people who love you and want to take care of you." Dear friends, Thank you so much for being those people for us and may we all  be able to be there for each other in times of need. Love, Rivka Malka and Bezalel http://www.youcaring.com/tuition-fundraiser/help-neshama-go-to-school/216679 Bezalel and Rif http://www.youcaring.com/tuition-fundraiser/help-neshama-go-to-school/216679 Read more...

Saturday, December 5, 2015

Thank You!!!

    As you can imagine these past few days have been a dream. We are in a whirlwind of emotions and we keep replaying the entire scenario in our minds and in conversations again and again. Not only are we grateful but being in this position and hearing from so many other parents in making us think about what we can do to mitigate the burden on others. G-d willing we hope to pay it forward. We have only just begun to see the names of the shares and the donations and we want to thank each and every one of you personally. This thank you is not in place of that. But please read it anyway. I posted it on Baltimore Jewish Life as a way of saying thank you to them for helping us out. What you did has changed our lives forever. THANK YOU! Love, Rivka MalkaHere is our thank you letter.     Read more...

Friday, December 4, 2015

It's Shabbos Tonight!

https://youtu.be/Uzumwtp7kfc Today is Friday. Around here we like to call it Erev Shabbos, the Eve of Shabbos. The magic of Shabbos is as deep as the ocean and as simple as a bumper sticker. You know that one  the one that says "We are not physical beings have a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a physical experience." That one. We know it -  but it's so hard to access. Our whole week is full of physical pursuits. Enter Shabbos. Imagine putting it all way. No phone, no computer, no cooking, no laundry, no radio, no TV, no cars, no bikes, no mortgages or bills and no going to the office. And then sitting at your table all dressed up - or at a friend's home and enjoying a candlelit dinner with endless hours to read and sing and talk. Taking the time to learn ancient wisdom, taking walks with the kids and relaxing. And then waking up on Shabbos day and doing it all over again. It's just the greatest gift in the world. This video is a song we often sing when we get into our English repertoire (as opposed to traditional Hebrew Shabbos Songs- you can hear one here). It's an oldie - early 80's I think,  but it gets me every time. We sing it and I feel a bubble of happiness welling up inside of me. Wherever you are, whoever you are, may you end the week with serenity. And even if you're not Jewish, give yourself a well deserved break from technology. Visit your quiet place inside of yourself and be Queen or King for a day. And if you are Jewish, go to Shabbat.com and join someone this Shabbos. Don't let even more one more pass you by. Love, Rivka Malka   Read more...

Thursday, December 3, 2015

The Third Alternative

The  Third Alternative is an alternate universe that is waiting for us to visit her. It's a place of arriving, a place of surrendering control and being open, not only to possibilities, but to the possibility that there are so many possibilities you haven't even begun to fathom. They say, "You teach what you need to learn." The first half of this year I was learning about boundaries. I had made so many mistakes over the years that it took a giant wake up call for me to see how  offtrack I was. (You can see the video here.) I found that as soon as I was ready to learn the chances to practice the lesson were everywhere. I learned how to say no from a place of clarity. there are healthy limits that are needed to sustain a good spiritual and physical health. It's actually been pretty humbling. Now that I'm more honest about what I can and can't do, I realize that there's a lot that I can't do, without paying the price. So that was "Boundaries 101." And now, onto the next class, "Confrontation 101." If you watch the video you'll see notice that it's actually the opposite of classic confrontation where you blast the other party with your feelings.  A better name for this life lesson is "Harmony 101." and I am so grateful that I am learning it, day by day. You can see the book on Amazon here. I got mine from the library:) Read more...

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

Gold and Sequins and Rustic Rainbows

  (Pictured here, Mommy in the orange shawl with 2 friends in Jerusalem)   I can't just write about Mommy PRivka Malka wrapunzel, The P is for Perlman She gave me my name. I can't just tell stories that will make your eyes shine and your heart soar She wouldn't like that. Mommy likes the hidden world and the hidden words the unspoken messages of holiness and empathy and permission to be wrapped up in the olive dip and cashew spreadolive dip offered with abundance at her table. Mommy is an inventor. She invented herself, as the mother of 8 children a woman on her own, a healer, a helper, and now, a hidden sage in the Old City of Jerusalem. I met Mommy when I was just thirteen I soaked her up. She was new to me. IMG_8503 So much color- her conversations were different her scarves were different and her son- HE was different. So I fell in love with him and only years later, when we got married did I get to call her Mommy. There is so much you need to know if you want to understand even the tips of her toes and so much you'll never know. But know this, those scarves you see on my head more than fabric, more than colors - the striving for something authentic that's from her. The daring to write the uncomfortable, the permission to share the rawest of rawRivka Malk awrapunzel that's from her. The castle of love my children grew up in surrounded by aunts and uncles and cousins that's from her. That was her vision She carried it alone and now it carries on. The scarves that Mommy wears have multiplied over the years. When I met her it was one, and now two or three. Gold and sequins and rustic rainbows Hidden in the layers of fabric is wisdom pain and pleasure are tucked away in it's folds and secret prayers are whispered beneath It takes a lot of scarves to hold a woman like this. Rivka Malka wrapunzel                 Read more...

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

The Art of Womanhood

The Art of Womanhood is a revolutionary online workshop series for women of all ages. In this workshop you will learn: How to: Be emotionally available but have good boundaries. Nurture your spirituality within the daily demands. Respect men and be appropriately embrace our feminine role. mother daughter Take your friendships to a new level. Love your body. Believe in yourself. Live life as a giver but not lose yourself in the process. Embrace your femininity beyond what Western culture tells you that is. Be happy and have a truly blissful marriage. To join today and reserve your spot, sign up HERE. The Art of Womanhood workshops will not be typical. We will not only learn, but form a community of growing women. You will experience deep camaraderie and actionable results. The workshops will explore realms that women never talk about but should. Q. I am not married. Is this class for me? A. Yes! Though some of the examples may be within the context of a relationship,this Art is about balance and pleasure and is something all women need. Q. Will you be focusing on marriage at all? A. Yes! The primary focus will be building the foundation of The Art of Womanhood, but the results will drastically improve your marriage. Following this series, I will be offering The Art of Marriage workshops. To join today and reserve your spot, sign up HERE. Workshop Information  What :The Art of Womanhood - An Intimate, Interactive, Inspiring Reclaiming. Dates Jan 4, 11, 18, 25 and Feb 1 Time - 8:30pm - 10:00pm Location - Online Price - 4 payments of $25 Early Registration ($100) After Dec 16 - 5 payments of $25 ($125) Class will include include homework and in - class coaching. Not available at 11:00? Don't worry! All classes will be recorded. Click HERE to Sign up The Art of Womanhood will change your life.       Read more...