How To Dive Deep Into Your Life Mission Without Ruining Your Marriage

  How to Dive Deep Into Your Life Mission Without Ruining Your Marriage supposes that you can do just that.  That you can actually ruin your marriage while trying to live your best self. There you are feeling energized, doing important work and while you are busy saving the world or "getting in touch with yourself" and your marriage is coming apart. I'm about to share something really awkward with you. Sometimes when people meet me and my husband they just don't get it.  They see me doing my ( my million and one) thing(s) leading groups and seminars.  Then they see him - calm, not spotlight seeking and a one on one sort of guy. And they jump to conclusions

What they expect when they hang out with us is that I run the show. They assume that I'm the it and he's the sidekick. That my work takes precedence. Then they hang out with us and they see that nothing could be further from the truth. We're partners and friends and we support each other - and though we're different we LOVE our differences. One of our main goals in marriage is to build each other up.

So why do I bring this up? Because, after feeling really bad (Omg, you think I have a bad marriage?!!) I realized that people only assume this because that's how it usually is.  More often than not, when one spouse grows, the marriage shrinks. It's like the flip side of enlightenment is self righteousness. Or, to be kinder, things have changed and you just don't know what to do with it.

I started to point fingers until I remembered that that was almost me! ( I'll tell you all about it on Wednesday's webinar.) I made so many mistakes and I learned so much. As a person who is constantly seeking to grow I have had thousands of opportunities to take the wrong route in my marriage. And sometimes I did - Oy vey!

 It's so subtle. Because what you're doing is actually amazing, so what could be wrong?

I've seen so many women  confused as they try to make sense of their growth and its impact on their relationship. I spoke to Shlomo Slatkin of The Marriage Restoration Project. and he knew exactly what I meant.  In his work counseling couples he's seen this scenario time and time again. women are struggling - And we decided to do a webinar together.

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